It is sad that many of us have grown up being constantly warned about the risks and dangers of expressing ourselves sexually. Some sexual practices can be inspirational, when applied with awareness and skill.

From the greatest erotic illustrators of the 18^th and contemporary centuries, via modern-day adult movies to individuals’ experiences behind closed doors, recent generations have seen couples  become more accepting of sexual practices once considered taboo by religion or other deep-rooted beliefs.

According to the greatest relationship guru, John Gray: the Smart Marriages Impact Award winner and consulting editor of The Family Journal, sexual pleasure is vital for our emotional and physical well-being.

There are therefore many ways of achieving such pleasure and fellatio -also known as ‘giving head’ or ‘sucking off’ – is one of them. It is often wrongly referred to as ‘a blow job’ when, in fact, it is highly dangerous to ‘blow’ during this practice. Fellatio is an act of stimulating a man’s penis with your lips, tongue, mouth or throat, usually by licking or sucking.

Remember,  this has nothing to do with the ritual initiation performed by the Sambia tribe in Papua New Guinea, where boys as young as six to 10 participate openly in homosexual activity in an early ‘coming of age’ ritual. The Sambia tribe believe that their passage to manhood should involve performing fellatio to adult men because boys are unable to mature unless they ingest semen and have “eaten the penis”. Boys engaging in this activity are not considered gay.  It is simply something their culture expects them to do (though in other cultural contexts this rite would be associated with paedophilia).

 Fellatio, by contrast, is a practice involving two adult sexual partners consenting to pleasure themselves, with one agreeing to fellate the other.

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A straw poll of members of the British public carried out between March 2010 and November   2011 found that two-thirds of men love oral sex.

Asked if she has ever performed fellatio, Claire, 30 (name changed) from Cheam, initially seems uncomfortable and embarrassed, before finally saying: “I am very enthusiastic about it. I often kiss it in foreplay before we make love. I know how much my boyfriend likes it and I can tell how extremely grateful he is in bed, when he is stiff enough.”

Most men like to give and nearly all of them like to receive it. This could sound depressing and frustrating for women who have never done their homework, because they think they need special training and skills to fellate their man. But if you connect sexually with your partner, if you have a strong sexual attraction to him, the skill will spontaneously follow.

You don’t have to be a porn star to be good in bed or to perform fellatio with dexterity. Any ordinary woman sucking off her partner’s penis with love and pleasure is more likely to perform it with more sensuality and grace than anyone else involved in the same activity purely with the motivation of making money….

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Fellatio, done properly…

Remember, in lovemaking, communication will play a key factor: 

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The Bridge Magazine Editor.